Apologies

OMG, FOREVER. It's been about that long since I have even looked at this blog much less thought about it. Oh, wait, there were a couple of instances where I thought, "I should write about this." Then the world kept turning and I've blinked a total of 287345820246 since then and have forgotten what that nonsense I was slightly interested in sharing with you was. I SUCK.
A girlfriend of mine actually admitted to me the other day that she reads my blog and it was SHE who brought it to my attention that I hadn't written in over a month and she needed something funny to read. I could have directed her to all of the blogs that I read, but most are not funny. Just 2 words away from making me want to slit my own wrists on some days. By the tone of her text, I could tell she need not be redirected to any of those.
She then went on to tell me it would me my fault if she died that night and had nothing NEW and FUNNY to read. I think this was right after she said she was driving her car into the next guardrail. BAD DAY?
The only thing I could tell her was to reread the blog from the beginning and do it at a different computer (try at the library) so that way it would maybe feel like it was brand new? I promised her I would write something funny for her funeral.

Just Remember....

Just when you think everything is going down the drain, when you think all hope is lost, when you're at ground zero and picking yourself up seems impossible, the weight on your shoulders seems unbearable to lift, remember there is someone out there who cares.  Someone who loves you. Someone who truly has it worse off than you. The "guests" on Jerry Springer are living proof. Call me when you don't think anyone will answer on the other end.  I will.

Calmness In Our Lives

I am passing this on to you because it definitely works and we could all use a little more calmness in our lives. By following simple advice heard on the Oprah show, you too can find inner peace. Dr. Oz proclaimed, 'The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you have started and have never finished.'
Sooooo, I looked around my house to see all the things I started and hadn't finished, and before leaving the house this morning, I finished off a bottle of White Zinfandel, a bottle of Tequila, a package of Oreos, the remainder of my old Prozac prescription, the rest of the cheesecake, some Doritos, and a box of chocolates. You have no idea how freaking good I feel right now.

This gave me a good hearty laugh as my beautiful friend, Alissa G., passed it on to me early this morning. Thank you for putting a smile on my face this Monday.

T

One Foot In Front of the Other

I was written a letter by someone who read my blog and it deeply touched me. It touched me in such a way that I actually carry it with me. I choke back tears every single time I read it. I want to share it with you, perhaps in some sort of way, it can encourage you.

Honest. Tough to deal with on many levels...not because of the infidelity (I understand your need to be close to someone). Difficult from the perspective that you found every reason to be happy and yet you were completely miserable. That can lead to harsh questions about yourself and the path that your life is taking and that, alone can raise doubts that are hard to dismiss. I can tell that the affair was hard on your estimate of yourself. Guilt is what you feel when you think someone should be looking. It's the little governor within that keeps us between the lines and often in our own private hell. But for all its moral outrage and self recriminations Guilt is not Truth, it is a judgement we make about our behavior in the absence of others. A kind of place holder judgement for when our courage will allow us to discover the truth. It has nothing to do with the reality of the situation and the truth about how you really feel.

I have no doubt that you loved your ex-husband with every fiber of your being. I have no doubt that somewhere along the line the love you shared was not enough to sustain you...for whatever the reason...and your choices cascaded from that sense of lack between you...THE LACK WAS NOT IN YOU...but between you. The hard part to accept is that maybe that lack would have turned to sufficiency with time, or with a word or with an act of faith and courage. That is not knowable. That grief will lay fresh within until time dulls the sharp wound to an ache. That ache will be the reminder that you have loved and lost. Nothing more, nothing less. Grieve for the love you lost and shed all the tears you can muster but Forgive yourself...You did nothing wrong. It failed to work out long before the affair. And that's okay.

"You'll seldom experience regret for anything that you've done. It is what you haven't done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it. Value your present moments. Using them up in any self-defeating ways means you've lost them forever."

Wayne Dyer

Author and Speaker

T

Fight Like Hell

Rules for Boys

Buy this book now—if you have (or plan on having) sons. I must thank Walker for advancing me a copy of his much anticipated book Rules for My Unborn Son. Gleaned from his popular blog, “the book of rules and accompanying quotes is quite simply an instruction manual for becoming a Good Man—industrious, thoughtful, charming, and of course, well-dressed.” It’s a book for the ages. Intended to be passed down from one generation to the next, it’s timeless in its wisdom and delivery.





















I’ve curated my top ten rules I’ve been steadily instilling in my two sons.


• Make sure your clothes fit properly.

• Nothing good ever happens after 3 A.M. Promise.

• Spend time with you mother. She’s cooler than you think.

• The key to good photography is not timing. It’s editing.

• Socks are not necessary in the summer, no matter how formal the occasion.

• Learn to tie a bow tie.

• When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.

• Don’t be afraid to ask out the best-looking girl in the room.

• Surprise your dad at the office. Trust me, whatever he's doing is not as important as you.

• Never side against your brother in a fight.

Enjoy!

T

Do It While You Can

One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore."

No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute."

Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I love you."So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick.

This is true for marriage .....And old cars And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents.

We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it. Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close!

Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do.

Live today to the fullest because tomorrow is not promised.

from Live Passionately

Every Woman Should Have

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...one old love
she can imagine
going back to...
and one who reminds
her how far she has come...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...enough money within her
control to move out and
rent a place of her own
even if she never wants
to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
.. something perfect to wear if
the employer or date of her dreams
wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
.. a youth she's content
to leave behind...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...a past juicy enough that
she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...a set of screwdrivers, a
cordless drill, and a black
lace bra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
..one friend who always makes
her laugh ... and one who lets
her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...a good piece of furniture
not previously owned by anyone
else in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...eight matching plates, wine
glasses with stems, and a recipe
for a meal that will make her
guests feel honored.
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
...a feeling of control over
her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.......how to fall in love without
losing herself...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
..how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend
without ruining the friendship...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
...when to try harder ... and
when to walk away...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
....that she can't change the
length of her calves, the width
of her hips, or the nature of her
parents...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
...that her childhood may not
have been perfect...but its
over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
...what she would and wouldn't
do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
..how to live alone... even if
she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
...whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't
take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
...where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
.. what she can and can't
accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...

Make Time For You

"How often is peace a place within your mind and your world? Lean to maintain a peaceful state of mind at all costs. If you do not, it will cost you in the quality of how you experience life."– Ron Rathbun

Don't wait for time. Make it. Don't wait for love. Feel it. Don't wait for money. Earn it. Don't wait for the path. Find it. Don't wait for opportunity. Create it. Don't go for less. Get the best. Don't compare. Be unique. Don't fight your misfortune. Transform it. Don't avoid failure. Use it. Don't dwell on a mistake. Learn from it. Don't back down. Go around. Don't close your eyes. Open your mind. Don't run for life. Embrace it.

Be your best self. Believe it.

T

Simple Advice

Some of my favorite quotes come from a bear named, Pooh. Enjoy.

~"If you live to be 100, I hope I live to be 100 minus 1 day, so I never have to live without you"

~“If there ever comes a day when we can't be together keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever”

~“Promise me you'll never forget me because if I thought you would I'd never leave.”

~"It's so much more friendly with two."

~"It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like 'What about lunch?'"

~"Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day."

~"Some people care too much, I think it's called love."

~"If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together.. there is something you must always remember. you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. but the most important thing is, even if we’re apart.. i’ll always be with you."

T

Forever Love

I have had a few friends reach out to me over the past few months asking some questions about my marriage and relating it to their own. I have been telling them that I would write about it to sit back and be patient. It’s been a couple of months for some, weeks for others, and merely days with one. It’s not that I have been too busy, although I truly am non-stop these days. Perhaps part of it is reliving the past that I have trouble doing. Finding the right words is another reason. Most of all, I don’t want someone relying on ME for advice as to whether they should stay in their marriage or not. I will go ahead and spew forth a few perils of wisdom, okay; advice is really the key word I should use.

I married a great man in 2001. He was perfect from the get go with Jake who was 2 at the time. He moved from NY to TX to start our family. We were the best of friends from day one. According to our friends, we were the perfect couple. What people see on the outside is not obviously the same behind closed doors. When we decided to divorce in 2007, we remained best friends. We looked at all of the options before splitting; in the end we went our separate ways. When I had to find a new place to live, he actually went with me. He reassured me that he could help fix things in some of the houses we looked at. It even went as far as possibly living across the street from each other at homes that were both for sale. In the end, he thought it was a bad idea for us. It shocked all of our friends and our families. Out of everyone, they never thought it would be he and I to divorce.

We were perfect. We just weren’t happy. Now you can ask, is anyone happy? Or what truly is happy? These questions are different for each individual and not as a couple. We lived like roommates. We never stopped loving the kids. We never stopped loving each other. As much as we tried counseling, date nights, church, sex, none of it helped. We didn’t want to prevent the other one from truly finding that one person that is your soul mate...because of my unhappiness and longing for my needs to be taken care of I had an affair. There, I said it. I know you wanted to ask. It was rough. The guilt ate at me. The day Doug found out, I fell apart. We cried, we yelled, we were silent, but at the end of the day we took the kids to see Spiderman 3. What??? Who does that? An extraordinary man does. You ask then why did I let him go? Who would want me after that? Even if he did, my “needs” weren’t being met and I know I wasn’t meeting his. We discussed our options to try to work it out as a couple, or just for the kids, or for financial reasons, or out of fear of being alone. None of these are good options, but were entertained for some sake I cannot recall at this time. The days thereafter I’m not going to tell you were easy. I can probably tell you they were crazy more than anything. In the end the attorney commented on our case being the “easiest she has ever seen.” We had split everything and moved into separate homes by the time we filed papers. Doug showed up on the day our divorce went before a judge to be finalized. He didn’t have to be there, but showed up for moral support. At the end we walked to our cars. We stood outside of his car and I said, “Thanks for being here. I’m sorry for everything I put you through.” The floodgates opened and I sobbed. He grabbed me and hugged me tight. He said, “It’s just a piece of paper. It’s OK. We’re OK. We’re still friends. I love you.” I told him that I loved him as I hugged back. I slowly walked to my car and drove away.

Since then we have had good times and bad times as all friends do. We just took the boys to the movies last night to see “Night at the museum 2.” He’s the first person I call in the middle of the day when I’m having a bad day and want to vent.

If you’re asking why we don’t try to get back together or if I miss him….it depends on the day or even the time of day. In the end, I know nothing would change and we would end up right back where we started. The heart can endure so much pain.

I tell you this information for reference and guidance only. Sometimes you feel like no one is going through what you’re going through. You think no one will understand. You probably find yourself at a loss and then you start to question and doubt yourself. You begin to lose yourself worth. You begin to make excuses. I told you the above information to let you know that you are not alone.

Here’s what I have to say about it. You can stop reading if you think I have rambled on long enough. I never asked you to read this anyway. If you want to judge me, fine. You won’t be the same. I will tell you that you have not walked a single inch in my shoes. You have not endured the pain that I have had to endure, or the torment that I have experienced. This is just a small slice of the story. I’m human. We all make mistakes. We all have skeletons. You are no better than the person standing next to you. You can judge me, but I know that you only suffer from your own insecurities and this just makes you feel bigger and better than me. I digress. Whatever the reason is in your current relationship, take a step outside of the relationship and look in. Disengage for a quick second. You married the person standing in front of you for a reason. What was that reason? Write it down. Take a trip down memory lane. I find that most of my married friends disengage a few years after they marry. The person standing before your eyes is still the same person. Marriage shouldn’t change anything. I know that some people truly change and you may have probable cause at that time. Whatever the reason may be, don’t just walk away because you think the grass is greener on the other side. It’s greener til the flood comes, then it’s just a mess. Look, all I can say is give it your best shot. Not just the old college try, because some of you strived for that 70 average just to continue on. Truly fight for what you want. Give it your all. If it still doesn’t work out in the end, you can at least say you tried. You’re not a failure. A failure is someone who gives up without putting in a single drop of sweat. Success is the result of blood, sweat, and tears regardless of the outcome. Now go work your magic.

Give love a chance.

T

Make It Count

I have said this before, but almost everyday I am constantly reminded of it.

"Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), *but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.* And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles, you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart."

I have been asked, "Why didn't I meet you sooner?" I always smile. I want to just say, "The timing wasn't right. Had I come into your life sooner, it still wouldn't have mattered and most likely my heart would have gone unnoticed." A little cheesy I am sure most of you would think. If you just take a moment and look back on your life and the people who have come in and out of it, know that timing had everything to do with it. There is a reason, don't fight it, just embrace it. All I can say when you meet someone special in your life, MAKE EVERY MOMENT COUNT. It will be worth it. I promise.

T

Start Now

Regardless of our present or past circumstances, the important thing is ... everything that is happening or has happened is for a reason. In reality, there are no victims. We each have a different sad story to tell. But the common thread that runs thru them all, is that we have at some point lost our power, or it has been taken away from us, or we have just plain given it away.

What can YOU do today to start empowering yourself?
Now, regardless of your present or past circumstances, at any time you choose, you can take a bold step and awaken the Empowered person that already exists within you.

Wisdom:

*Every time we rely on someone or something outside of us to provide us with love, success or happiness, we hand our power over. As soon as they don’t provide it we are defeated.

Ironically, when we decide to be love, success and happiness, we easily attract the people, events and objects that enhance this state.


As you continue to decide what matters most, be honest with yourself.
Stop ignoring the urge to get on with the work you know you should do or to finally redefine relationship: That whisper you keep hearing is the universe trying to get your attention. Make it your intention to pursue only what is honorable, what is good, and what is true and the results will be a life grander than you could every have imagined. When you're true to who you are and what your spirit is telling you to do, that truth will indeed set you free.

You have always been deciding the truth of your life. It is how you decide to feel about it.

There is no need to try to work out what something means.
The descision is yours.

Getting Away With It

It's a little-known fact that Good Girls are only good because they know how to get away with being bad. They have their shiny halo's on display for the whole world to see and they walk down the street in their diamond slippers never stepping on a crack in the pavement.
No one is watching when a Good Girl skips down a side alley and mugs a baby for candy. How do they get away with it? Here's the secret.


Deny Everything


I'm starting with the last resort, because when it comes down to it this is the Good Girl's most powerful weapon against everyone else. It's their word against yours.
A Good Girl simply flat-out refuses to admit they were in any way, shape or form involved in any evil deeds.
“Of course I didn't do it, I would never do something like that!” is a perfectly plausible alibi for a Good Girl, who is always presumed innocent even when proven guilty.
A Good Girl could get caught with her hand in the cookie jar and a simple “Freddy tricked me” will suffice, while poor Freddy cops the blame.


Admit to Small Faults


In direct contradiction to the “deny everything” technique comes this little crafty piece of sly fault avoidance from the Good Girl's rule book.
A Good Girl bashfully admits to small, human errors … like barely audible burps after a delicious meal, usually orchestrated with a polite hand-over-the-mouth action and a timid “excuse me” which everyone finds delightfully adorable.
Other minor mishaps can be admitted to, such as the proverbial spilt milk, as long as the Good Girl makes a grand gesture of fixing her little mistakes. No one can fault a person for such an unfortunate accident.
Cute forgetfulness admitted before any damage is done is another strong winning point for the Good Girl, who can quite easily say “I forgot to tell you, your mother called yesterday. Which reminds me, it's her birthday in a week so I bought you this card to send her. Aren't the kittens on the cover adorable?”


Be Confident


A Good Girl knows ahead of time that she'll get away with it, so she takes on every evil deed with absolute confidence.
She can walk into a bank and hold up the cashier, with her immaculately groomed hair, manicured hands and a big smile on her face. Her mannerisms scream “I'm not doing anything wrong, I'm supposed to be here” and not a single person will question her authority.
After robbing the bank, the Good Girl can go shopping at the Tiffany store next door, confident in the knowledge that no one bothered to call the police.
And even if the police came, she would deny everything.


Cover Your Tracks


Most Good Girl crimes are quite petty, like stealing her sister's clothing and “borrowing” her mother's BMW without asking. The important thing is that she knows how to cover her crime.
When she enters her sister's room she doesn't turn on the light but waits for her eyes to adjust to the darkness, you just never know when your sister will be driving past the house and see a light on in her bedroom, that's a dead giveaway that something is amiss.
The Good Girl then steps over any litter on the floor, making sure she displaces nothing. She opens the cupboard slowly and quietly, and scans the rack of clothes with her eyes only. When she spies the little black dress she came looking for, she slips the hanger off the rack and moves the neighbouring clothes to close the gap.
When she leaves the room, she doesn't have to worry about turning off the light.
The same for the BMW. If the tank is a ¼ full of petrol when she gets in, it will be a ¼ full of petrol when she gets out. If something happens while she's driving home drunk and the car ends up scratched or damaged, it's time to deny everything.


Keep Your Story Simple


Remember that line from one of those Shakespeare plays, something about protesting too much (no, I clearly don't remember it either). The point is, the more you complicate your story, the more suspicious you sound.
Also, complicated stories contain details and a Good Girl is too busy being a master criminal to waste time remembering the fine points of her cover story.
If someone asks her “Where were you at 4 o'clock?” her simple answer contains no traceable lies “I was in my bedroom studying Geography.” That sounds just like where a Good Girl would have been when the bank was robbed.
“Where did you get that Tiffany necklace?” is answered with “Oh that? I bought it at the markets 5 months ago.”
Notice how the Good Girl does not bring anyone else into her story, because that would require their back up, which leads me to the next important technique.


Trust No One


There's nobody better at getting away with it than a Good Girl working alone. She can't rely on friends as plausible alibis. Her friends may not be as good as she is, and therefore they won't be as believable. Also, they aren't as confident as the Good Girl, so they'll probably cave under pressure.


There is another important lesson in this:


Don't Brag


One sad fact for the Good Girl is that she has to keep her secret identity under wraps at all times. If it got out that she was really Cat Woman, she'd have the Mayor and Batman to contend with, and no one wants that!
Since no one can be trusted, no one can ever know about her dastardly deeds … unless she has a memory eraser gun and isn't afraid to use it.
BUT since this isn't a comic book we're talking about, just stick to the fact that bragging about getting away with it can't be done.


Last But Not Least, Know Your Limitations


If you are small and weak, then stealing an ATM might not be your thing. You might want to stick to mugging babies for candy.
Even the best Good Girl in all the world, with all her tricks of the trade up her sleeve, will come crashing down from her pearly white cloud if she exceeds her limits.


And that's all there is to it.


Now fly my pretties, fly!

T

Quotes of the Day

~The true test of character is how we behave when we dont know what to do. -john holt

~Have patience, God isnt finished yet.

~Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp. -nathaniel hawthorne.

~If you would not be forgotten as soon as you are gone, either write things worth reading or do things worth writing. -benjamin franklin

~If you scatter thorns, don't go barefoot. - Italian Proverb

~Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you. -Emerson'

~We don't know who we are until we see what we can do. - Martha Grimes

~Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do. - Bejamin Spock

~Expect troubles as an inevitable part of your life, and repeat to yourself the most comforting words of all... "this too shall pass."

Go It Alone

I had such a hard time when I turned 30. There was something about leaving the comfort of my free-loving 20’s that scared the hell out of me. I am so thankful I am not in my 20’s any longer! What is it about those girls that still act like they are reliving their high school days???

I was at an event tonight where there were about 50 beautiful women, most of them in their 20’s. There were just a handful of us that were in our 30’s and you could pretty much pick us out.

I have to go on record and say that Texas has to have some of the most beautiful women out there. On occasion I have had men tell me this very statement as I have traveled the US. I have no idea what the Beach Boys, and later by David Lee Roth, was talking about! I digress.

So I’m at this event…..and a few “recently made popular” boys walk into the room and you would have thought that they were the Jonas Brothers. OK, so maybe not that young, but most of the girls started getting giddy and lost their sense of mind! WTH is wrong with you? That stupid, naive, blonde act will only get you so far. I am hoping the guys were not impressed by all of the stupid behavior, but were probably eating up the attention nonetheless. Who wouldn’t?

So I sit back with a couple of cute girls I had just met. We clicked right away because they were just like me; brass, independent, and confident as hell. It also helps that they live right by me in Grapevine! Yeah Baby!!! We were discussing that had we been in an appropriate setting, we would have had to let some of the girls know that their “styles” needed some help. I’m way off track.

I’m standing there and ask one of my new girls where the restroom was. Out of nowhere this high pitch resonating noise piped up, “I’ll go with you!!!!” “Um, no you don’t have to, I can do it alone.” I think I said this with a pretty disgusted look on my face. “OMG I have to go too, let’s go together!” Someone please shoot me in the head is all I could think of as she grabbed my arm. When is the appropriate time in your life when women do not have to go to the bathroom together? Seriously? I can understand meeting a girl in the bathroom to give her some desperate piece of information before continuing on with her evening, but other than that, lock it up.
Here’s my advice to you, ladies:

• Don’t act like idiots when a boy walks into the room.
• Don’t draw unnecessary attention to yourself.
• Learn to go to the bathroom without your entourage.
• Be confident.

Otherwise someone is going to have to take away my gun. And, of course, I mean this in the most loving manner.

Good night, my pretties.

T

Make It Happen

Sometimes in our lives someone comes along and just sweeps us off our feet. It hits us when we least expect it. Our lives completely get turned upside down but deep down you know things will work out in the long run. Your heart gets caught up in the moment and there's absolutely nothing you can do. You realize it's the one thing your heart was missing to feel complete. Holding back only prolongs the inevitable. Don't fight it. It is what it is. Don't question it. Just go with it. Just let it be.

The Road Not Taken

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

~Robert Frost

This is my favorite poem. It's very challenging, yet comforting to me. I can go on to tell you how this poem effects me, but I will spare you the long diatribe. It runs parallel on so many levels.

Be yourself....your best self. We can do that perfectly.

T

Every Girl Wants...

To be kissed in the rain.

To slow dance (music optional).

To be a priority.

To take a romantic bath together.

To cuddle on the couch while watching a movie & take a nap together.

Little notes, text messages, calls, IM's, whatever, just some form of communication during the day letting her know that you're definitely thinking about her.

Rose petals leading to the bedroom.

Her hand to be held when you walk.

To be kissed on the tip of the nose.

You to whisper "I love you" in her ear at unexpected moments.

To be kissed passionately out of no where.

To be chased by the man she loves.

You to wipe away her tears and hold her tightly.

To be surprised with a trip.

To fall asleep in your arms.

You to bring her flowers for no apparent reason.

Your eyes to light up when she walks into the room.

To feel like she's the most important person in the world and you can't live without her.

To have an "our song."

To be the only one.

To stay in bed just a little longer than normal

You to make her laugh over nothing.

You to hold on to her just a little longer before she has to leave.

If you don't you may lose her to someone that will.

T

Go Cowboys, Go! Go!

Originally posted August 28, 2008


Last night I met Brandon for the Cowboys game. We were about an hour late because of the school meetings I had and his dinner program he had to attend. About an hour into the game, my girlfriend, Lori, called and needed my help. She has just gone through a breakup and needed a friend. Lori has been there through A LOT with me and I knew there was no chance I was going to let her down....but then there was this boy....Didn't I say in a previous post that your girls will understand when you break a date with them to go out with a guy??? I turned to Brandon and all he said was "Go. She needs you." I was shocked! I kissed him quickly and was off to meet my girl. She was waiting for me at the edge of her driveway and she got into my car. "I need a drink and to laugh." You can always count on me for the latter part of that sentence. We left to go to Primo's to sit on the patio and have a couple of margarita's. I didn't let her discuss any issues that were bringing her down. We immediately ran into Big AL, a Dallas DJ, who bought us our first round of margarita's after several hugs. He introduced us to Brian from LA who became our instant companion the rest of the evening. Lori and I laughed until the wee hours of the morning. We got to the nitty gritty of things early this morning over coffee. I passed on some awesome advice that a very wise person passed on to me. I let her read some letters that I wrote that helped me in the process of it all. It conjured up some emotions for me, but I was able to help her understand the reasoning behind it all. My main advice to her was this:

Surround yourself with good people and they will help you come through. Time will heal all your heartache. Let go of any anger and resentment, otherwise, you're scarred with bitterness that you will carry forward. Remember what was good about that person. It's why you fell in love with them in the first place; hold that in your heart as you move forward.

Hugs all around.

T